Ask Colin: Wedding Etiquette

What If I Didn’t Receive a Gift From One of My Guests?

Icarus Leung

What if I didn't receive a gift from one of my guests? Should I write a note thanking them for attending? Should I ask them about the gift in case it might have gotten lost?

Never call to ask whether someone sent a gift. It's presumptuous. Guests have up to a year after your wedding to send a gift without breaching rules in anybody's etiquette book.

There is no need to send a thank you note to a guest simply for attending the wedding, unless you feel a real closeness to the person or they did something special for you at the event.