Ask Colin: Wedding Etiquette

 

My parents are divorced, who should walk me down the aisle?

I love this question, and I understand your concern. That said, there are 365 days in the year... and seeing that this is your ONE day to walk down the aisle, both parents should put their differences aside and honor YOU. This is your moment and it’s their responsibility to support you unconditionally and altruistically.

If you think this will be impossible to do with both of your parents, here are other ways you can honor both your parents in some way:

  • You could have your mom walk you down the aisle and do a father/daughter dance with your father. Or the flip, have your dad walk you down the aisle and do a special dance with mom. 
  • Or, perhaps your mom can be the one to give the toast if Dad does the dance. 
  • Luckily, there are lots of ways mom can be involved with the wedding before the big day, if that’s easier for you. She can: go wedding dress shopping with you, be a consultant on family rituals or traditions you can incorporate into your big day, help with the guest list or just be an ear for you when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

Remember, what’s most important is that they’re both there for you. They can set aside their problems for one day to honor their child's wish to have them both be a part of their wedding -- and seating them across the room from each other won’t hurt!