Destination Wedding Etiquette Questions Answered
I firmly believe that most rules are meant to be broken. But some rules are all about your guests’ convenience, and those are rules that I think are worth following. Here are a few of my suggestions for destination weddings:
Timetable: The standard used to be to mail the invitation six weeks before the wedding. But that’s not nearly enough advance notice if you’re asking your guests to travel significantly, especially abroad or at peak travel times. So send a save-the-date card up to six months in advance, and the invitation itself eight to twelve weeks ahead of the event.
Confirmation Package: When you receive a positive RSVP for a destination wedding, send a confirmation package with all the pertinent travel information: logistics, accommodation, attire, activities.
Welcome Package: Available in every hotel room should be a packet of information very similar to the confirmation package- about the locale, the events and other activities, and anything else your guests might find useful. Don’t expect everyone o have traveled with the confirmation package you mailed earlier.
Goodnight Wishes: For turndown service, it’s a nice touch to have the staff place preprinted or prewritten cards on your guests’ pillows with a bit of poetry, an apt saying, or simply a heartfelt thank-you for their attendance. This is especially appropriate when your guests have traveled long distances, sometimes at great expense, to share your nuptials.
Giving Thanks: When you’re designing and ordering the invitation, the confirmation package, and the welcome package- a lot of individual pieces of paper- you might as well throw in a set of matching thank-you notes in the same theme as your other paper goods.