Registry Information Etiquette

Colin Miller

It’s a modern world, but some guidelines still prevail.

We get many questions on how a bride is supposed to let her friends, relatives and wedding guests know where she is registered. While the world has become less formal, a bride should never volunteer registry information without being directly asked; nor should registry information ever appear on any printed materials relating to the wedding (including the invitation, save the date, etc.).

Printing registry information on an insert in a wedding invitation looks like exactly what it is: a blatant solicitation for gifts. The way friends and relations find out where you are registered is to ask your mother, your maid of honor or you. If guests want to know, they will ask. And while it is still walking a fine line in the manners department, guests do appreciate a point in the right direction, especially if it's a click away.

If you have a wedding Web site, it's fine to include "Wedding Gifts" as one page, where you can list the names of stores where you are registered and, if available, provide links to the stores' Web sites. Guests who choose to access that information can click on the link, making gift shopping quick and easy.