A Million Thanks
Sending Personalized Thank You Letters
What to Say
A proper thank you note takes almost no time at all. In composing your notes, try to think of something special to say to each person. First, focus on the person, then on the gift. Mention the item specifically and what you plan to use it for. ("Thank you so much for the beautiful Haute Couture champagne glasses from Lenox. We can't wait to have you over for cocktails so we can enjoy them together!")
You might also mention how the gift will fit into your home and your lifestyle. ("The crystal clock you sent looks beautiful on the mantel. It matches our decor exquisitely and really helped to complete the look of our living room.")
If the gift wasn't something you requested or particularly like, focus instead on how nice it was to see the person at your wedding. ("Thank you so much for the lovely dish towels. We were so happy that you two could make the trip from Seattle to share in our special day. It meant so much to us to have you be a part of our wedding.").
If you got to spend a few special moments together during the wedding, you might mention that. ("It was so much fun to see all of our old college roommates together again. Laughing and talking with you at the cocktail party brought back so many fun memories and made the day so special. Let's plan to get everyone together again this summer.")
For gifts of cash or a check, describe what you plan to spend the money on. ("Thank you so much for your very generous check. Jim and I plan to put it toward a painting we've had our eye on for quite a while.")
There's no need to be formal or agonize over what to write. No one will go over your note with a fine-tooth comb to find misspellings or correct your grammar; they'll simply be touched and happy that you remembered them.
If you express yourself naturally, the note will almost write itself. A thank you note doesn't have to be pages long, but it should be specific, gracious and sincere. The point is to make them warm and personal.